So I recent talk to a couple, who seemed so loving towards each other, I asked when marriage was happening and they said they had a lot of things to work out first...hmmm....well I am known for my curiosity so I asked...
TRUST ISSUES....
well normally when I hear this it usually means one side or the other has cheated in the past, in this case neither was true...
the young lady, who genuinely loves her fiance', has been through so much in her past relationships cheated and lied to, and the young man who genuinely loves her, has never cheated and wouldn't dream of it, what he did do however is lie about getting a ticket!!!! yes a ticket!!!
A man reading this will raise an eyebrow and think WTF??...a woman however may understand. see its all about this huge portal of confusion that the words of the of the opposite sex goes through before reaching the other side, its this thin line between right and wrong that hinders the capability of opposite sexes to understand each other emotionally...
both this young man and young woman love each other dearly, so why isn't it enough?? and what does a ticket have to do with their happiness, and raise questions of trust and infidelity????
The Secret is in the SUB-CONSCIOUS mind...ok phonics style;
lets name the guy Adam, and the girl Eve...
Ok, so Adam lied about the Ticket, triggering a chain reaction of emotions sub-consciously in Eves mind...without being fully aware of it, or understanding her own emotions, the past events of lying which ultimately led to cheating enter played, Eve Lashed out on Adam!! Adam couldn't for the life of him understand, however started feeling guilty and realizes his lie although small made a huge problem...
Adam avoided telling her about the ticket because he says he knew what she would say and he didn't want to make her mad...hmm, considerate or not???
Eves past emotions sub-consciously creeps back into her and triggers the final emotion of pain in her past relationship. From fear of being hurt again, she ties a lie with cheating, she understood in the past that it was a first step...she would have never consciously blamed Adam for the other guys mistake, she would have never consciously wanted to make him feel like crap...she was genuinely hurt as a matter of fact and felt the loss of trust she once had for her previous mate.
Considerate! yes, Adam was attempting to be considerate, he actually cared about what Eve would think, he cared to see her smile and not make her mad...this is because Adam loves her...
Its funny how one persons attempt at making the significant other happy can trigger a negative reaction, and make both parties feel lost. Some may say it was only a little white lie...but clearly you see that in a relationship with a woman scorned or any woman in this case, you should never result to a cover up and a lie...because you will deal with the left over baggage Tom left behind...
Eve needs to empower herself by letting go and letting it out...she is still in pain. She is still angry at Tom, and is trying to spot every Tom before she suffers another heartbreak, its only human instinct to survive...
If they want to get married, she needs to open up and take a chance again...
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